No matter how long you have been with someone, you can never truly know them. We are continuously growing, developing and learning new things about ourselves. In this post, I’m sharing 25 questions to ask your partner that are fun and invoke deeper conversation.
When we have been in a relationship for quite some time, we like to believe that we know everything there is to know about our partners. It’s important to nurture your relationship by continuing to learn about each other and further your connection.
Naturally, the longer you know your partner, you let your guard down and allow them to see a different side of you that you might now trust other people with. I hope that these 25 intimate questions can help you get meaningful conversation flowing.
25 Questions to Ask Your Partner to Get to Know Each Other Better
- What is one quality you have that you hope our children inherit?
- What is one quality of mine that you hope our children inherit?
- In any aspect of you life, what makes you feel safe?
- When was the last time you felt completely vulnerable?
- What is one fear that you have that you don’t think you’ll ever overcome?
- What is something you’ve learned in your adult life that you wish you could tell your younger self?
- In what way would you like to grow as an individual in one year?
- What is one thing you enjoy about this point in your life?
- In what way have we grown as a couple?
- If we were never in a relationship, what is one quality about me that would make us great friends?
- What have you learned about yourself in the last year?
- What is one thing that you wish more people knew about you?
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- If you had to listen to one album for the rest of your life, what would it be and why?
- If you had a pick a song that defines who you are, what would it be?
- What is your favourite way to receive love from me?
- Name one thing that our relationship has taught you about yourself.
- When are you most comfortable and at peace?
- What is/are your love language(s)?
- If you could travel back to any era and spend the day with someone, where would you go and who would you choose?
- When was the last time you did something for the first time?
- If you had five minutes to speak and the whole world stopped to listen, what would you say?
- If you could eat one food every day for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- In one word, tell me what your passion is.
- What do you need most in this world? What can you not fathom living without?
- If a biopic of your life was made, which actor would you want to play you?
There are just some ideas of great questions to get the conversation flowing and get to know your partner in a different way. This is a great game to play during an at-home date night with a bottle of wine.
These are wonderful conversation starters! I like the question about one fear that you don’t think you’ll overcome!
Questions that really make you think and reflect are really good. So glad you liked the post – thank you for reaching!
This is one of the best blog I’ve ever read. I bought table napkins with thought-provoking questions a few months ago which we used during the Holidays to spark up fun conversations instead of talking about politics and the pandemic. They were a huge success and hours of laughter.
I really appreciate that, thank you so much! Those napkins sound really cool, they wouldn’t amazing for dinner parties (once the world is back to normal). Please send the link if you still have it 😊
I am going to write these down and put them in a jar on or kitchen table so that my husband and I can engage in deeper conversations beyond our daily news. These are great, I love how diverse the questions are, and how different they are from other articles I’ve read on this same topic.
That’s a really good idea, I hadn’t even thought of doing that! I’m glad you find them interesting and hope you enjoy the activity 😊
Loved these questions they really had me thinking for some. Definitely going to put these away so I can ask my boyfriend!
So glad you found them interesting – I hope you and your boyfriend have fun with the questions!
Love these questions! Will be saving this to use some with my partner in the future!
Thank you for reading, I’m glad you enjoyed the questions!
I love these conversation starters. Communication is SO important but most couples forget to keep working on it over time. I know that’s something that my husband and I realized about a year ago. We have a bucket full of conversation starters like these and just pick out a couple to kickstart a conversation when we have time. That being said, I think I’ll have to add some of your suggestions to the bowl!
I’m so glad you enjoyed the read, Britt! I don’t think you can ever truly stop growing and learning with and from each other. But you’re right, communication is something you have to intentionally continue to do. Conversation starters are a great way to break away from the “usual” conversation, right?
I love this list. Very good questions. I’ve been married almost 45 years and I doubt I know the answers to any of these questions. I guess I have some questions to ask. Thanks.
I guess that’s also the great thing about being in a long term relationship – there is always something new to learn and discover about your partner or spouse.